Comments on: is this a heroin addict relapse? http://withdrawalsymptomsmethadone.com/617/is-this-a-heroin-addict-relapse/ What You Should Know About Methadone Withdrawal Symptoms Wed, 01 Feb 2012 03:30:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: DEFINATELY BLESSED http://withdrawalsymptomsmethadone.com/617/is-this-a-heroin-addict-relapse/comment-page-1/#comment-723 DEFINATELY BLESSED Fri, 05 Feb 2010 22:12:22 +0000 http://withdrawalsymptomsmethadone.com/617/is-this-a-heroin-addict-relapse/#comment-723 There is a chance that he is doing drugs again; however, you need to gain his trust, that he can talk to you about it and get to the bottom of the doctors finding out what is wrong. Go with him to the Doctors office and in the exam room. Talk openly to the Doctor, in front of hubby...ask away. If he wants help, he will seek it then. Good luck loving your man. There is a chance that he is doing drugs again; however, you need to gain his trust, that he can talk to you about it and get to the bottom of the doctors finding out what is wrong. Go with him to the Doctors office and in the exam room. Talk openly to the Doctor, in front of hubby…ask away. If he wants help, he will seek it then. Good luck loving your man.

]]> By: Teresa S http://withdrawalsymptomsmethadone.com/617/is-this-a-heroin-addict-relapse/comment-page-1/#comment-722 Teresa S Tue, 02 Feb 2010 11:47:07 +0000 http://withdrawalsymptomsmethadone.com/617/is-this-a-heroin-addict-relapse/#comment-722 First a great big virtual hug as I know from experience what a tough thing you are going through right now. Terrified he may be relapsing but worried you may cause one by asking. Of course if you do confront him he will think you don't trust him. A truly terrible feeling. Unfortunately the only way to know for sure is to have him tested. One thing I learned is that addicts are master liars so if he is using or has just "slipped" a little it is very unlikely he will tell you. What I can tell is that if he still hangs around with anyone that uses, it is likely that he will eventually use too. For some reason addicts seem to get their validation by having other addicts with them. People that will pose as his friends, but will eventually catch him at a weak moment. In my opinion you have every right to talk to him about this and demand he take a test. If you would prefer to avoid a confrontation, you could be rather stealth about it by having his hair tested. Here is a link for a home test kit: What you really need to decide is if you can live with the constant worry that he will relapse and the statistics are shockingly high. I know that is much easier said that done. I didn't have a child with my cocaine/heroine addict bf and it took me over a year to finally decide I was done. By then I had alienated most of my friends and family as they could not stand to watch me try to save him when he wasn't ready to save himself. I wish you the best of luck and please feel free to email if you want to talk. I remember how alone I felt through all of that and how I really didn't feel like I had anyone to talk to. Teresa First a great big virtual hug as I know from experience what a tough thing you are going through right now. Terrified he may be relapsing but worried you may cause one by asking. Of course if you do confront him he will think you don’t trust him. A truly terrible feeling. Unfortunately the only way to know for sure is to have him tested. One thing I learned is that addicts are master liars so if he is using or has just “slipped” a little it is very unlikely he will tell you.

What I can tell is that if he still hangs around with anyone that uses, it is likely that he will eventually use too. For some reason addicts seem to get their validation by having other addicts with them. People that will pose as his friends, but will eventually catch him at a weak moment.

In my opinion you have every right to talk to him about this and demand he take a test. If you would prefer to avoid a confrontation, you could be rather stealth about it by having his hair tested. Here is a link for a home test kit:

What you really need to decide is if you can live with the constant worry that he will relapse and the statistics are shockingly high. I know that is much easier said that done. I didn’t have a child with my cocaine/heroine addict bf and it took me over a year to finally decide I was done. By then I had alienated most of my friends and family as they could not stand to watch me try to save him when he wasn’t ready to save himself.

I wish you the best of luck and please feel free to email if you want to talk. I remember how alone I felt through all of that and how I really didn’t feel like I had anyone to talk to.

Teresa

]]> By: Linde03 http://withdrawalsymptomsmethadone.com/617/is-this-a-heroin-addict-relapse/comment-page-1/#comment-721 Linde03 Tue, 02 Feb 2010 08:27:06 +0000 http://withdrawalsymptomsmethadone.com/617/is-this-a-heroin-addict-relapse/#comment-721 I lived with a drug addict for about 7 years... First rule of thumb, if you have the slightest feeling that they are back at it, they probably are. I understand it is so easy to stick up for his behaviors and want so badly to be able to find reasons for the changes in personality, etc, but the bottom line is that what you feel deep inside but don't want to admit is most likely what is going on. Don't you think he wants a methadone pill to try and offset what he is doing? That would make sense to get one "every now and then" I am sure that he feels regret and doesn't want to do those things, but the awful fact is that addicts don't feel they can control it and usually need a lot of help, i.e: several trips to a rehab clinic. My now ex still has problems with pills, etc. It is unfortunate for your little one, best of luck! I lived with a drug addict for about 7 years… First rule of thumb, if you have the slightest feeling that they are back at it, they probably are. I understand it is so easy to stick up for his behaviors and want so badly to be able to find reasons for the changes in personality, etc, but the bottom line is that what you feel deep inside but don’t want to admit is most likely what is going on. Don’t you think he wants a methadone pill to try and offset what he is doing? That would make sense to get one “every now and then” I am sure that he feels regret and doesn’t want to do those things, but the awful fact is that addicts don’t feel they can control it and usually need a lot of help, i.e: several trips to a rehab clinic. My now ex still has problems with pills, etc. It is unfortunate for your little one, best of luck!

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